drama, drama go away

Happy July!  Now to the situation at hand:

I really hate family drama, especially when it is my in-law side versus my side of the family.  If it's my side, I can just address whatever is at hand and figure it out and be done with it.  If it's the in-law side, I feel like I have to be more cautious- even though I do love my hubby's side of the family.

Mike's way of managing some of these situations is not always to my liking either.  His pattern is something like this: avoid/boycott, finally call/receive phone call, have dramatic argument...after the argument, there are one of two possibilities:

1. Mike got to have his say and so he considers the matter closed and things slowly return to normal
or
2. Mike is further pissed off by the other party's reaction and vows that he is "done" with said party. At some point, this generally wears off but one time it took about a year + another, more productive conversation.

You can imagine the dilemma this creates for me at times.  It's not fun...I try to encourage the "working it out" idea whenever possible.  The most recent issue, which I will not discuss further, is one of those things that could have been a small bump in the road...but has grown into a huge pothole.  And in this case, I'm not so much angry as maybe having some hurt feelings of my own.  But I'd probably choose to let it go rather than address if it were up to me alone.

I haven't provided enough detail to ask for advice...I'm just writing it out because it helps me process.
I'm just hoping that some resolution is achieved so that I'm not in an awkward position for too long!