Do you have a "cut-off" age for having babies? Some of my friends are strict "no babies after 35" types...some have a lower/higher age limit...and some don't worry too much about that. A few of my friends have other factors at play and age has nothing to do with it.
My mom turned 36 a month after she had me, so 35 was never a deal-breaker in my mind. I know medically, there are more risk factors involved with pregnancy once you hit 35...but it never caused me too much concern.
Until now...I will turn 35 in December. If you read this blog often enough, you know that the timing is not good for us to add to our family (practically speaking) for many, many reasons. I do feel that there is one more child in our future somewhere. I just don't know at what point I might feel that I am "too old".
I know this is a very personal question but if you are willing to share, what are your thoughts?
3 comments:
I don't have a "too old" age at this point. And if I did 35 certainly would NOT be it. Probably more like 40. If I had to put a number on it right now, I'd say 40. But so much of it, as you say, depends on your health, on your current family situation, on many, many complicating factors.
I think it all depends on when you started. Personally. Oh, and all that medical stuff too. But if you start at 26 like me and (ahem) pack them in...31 sounded like a pretty good time to stop for us. ;) Seriously, though, if I think the age limit for myself was more related to how far apart I wanted my oldest and youngest child(my older and younger sister are 10 1/2 years apart, which was hard on everyone at times). Of course, I thought ideally my oldest and youngest would be 6-7 years apart, not 4 years...so best laid plans and all that...
I think it definitely depends on your situation. Obviously if I got married at 35, I wouldn't let that stop me from having children. And medically there are more risks after 35, but still LOTS and LOTS of people have healthy pregnancies and babies after that age.
I'm 31, and I'd like to have at least one more kid, I think. I don't know when, but I'm not worried about my age at all at this point. I don't think I'd be worried about it until I was approaching 40. And even then, if I wanted another child and thought our family was ready for it, I think I would still try.
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